Was reading some posts on wedding forums recently. So many brides so disappointed in how their wedding day went. From flowers that didn’t match their vision, to rain ruining the day, guests not showing, cake not as pretty as they hoped, dress that didn’t fit great. The list of things that spoil the day for brides is endless. Everything that didn’t go as planned is noticed. And so many end up genuinely depressed over it. I have witnessed many a meltdown on the wedding day. There is too much pressure on brides to have the perfect day. And there really is no such thing.
I have a suggestion for all, not just for the wedding day but for the rest of your life. Instead of keeping score of what went wrong, change your focus to all that is going right in your life.
And don’t overlook the little things that mean so much.
As I write this, my husband is in the kitchen making breakfast. He is the cook in the family. We are having eggs and English muffins. Without me saying a word, he just noticed at some point I prefer the tops. And he noticed I often choose the same fork. (We have a collection of mismatched forks.) I already know there will be an English muffin top on my plate. And instead of putting my favorite fork in the dishwasher, he washes it every time I use it, hides it somewhere, and it is there on my plate for the next meal. If he makes pancakes, he doesn’t scrape down to bowl to use up all the batter. He knows I like to eat it raw and leaves some. These are the actions to keep score of. Little things someone does for you that really show how much they care and know you.
The whole point of your wedding day is to end it as a married couple. Perfect bouquets do not make the marriage. A great DJ does not make the marriage. A sunny day does not make the marriage. Perfect photos do not make the marriage. The wedding day does not make the marriage.
Things will go wrong on your wedding day and throughout your life. But there are things that go right as well.
Keep score of all that goes right. Really notice them. It can change your life.